It’s crazy how much something very simple (yet hard as hell to execute) can change the lives of people so dramatically. As a relationship coach I have had the how masculine energy is killing your relationship conversation a number of times. One client comes to mind and I explained how shifting her views and thoughts has now lined her up with her dream relationship. These words are straight out of her mouth, “enjoy !”.
When I learned about masculine and feminine energy, I immediately thought that my masculine energy was definitely more dominant and that it was beneficial for me. But the more that I learned about what masculine and feminine energy actually meant and how it was creating blocks in my life, I realized that I what a disservice I was doing to myself because I was so stuck and fixated on fueling my masculine energy.
Looking back, I can see how it affected my relationships by not allowing myself to be as open to the whole relationship idea because I was putting out this vibe and this energy that said “I got it, I’m in control, I don’t need you”. This was probably a big turn off to men who felt my masculine energy was clashing with theirs.
The biggest takeaway from reconnecting with my core feminine energy is that I’ve softened and now I honor my feminine energy. I can see it as an asset rather than a setback. Before my understanding of feminine energy was soft and meager, which were things I didn’t want to be. But when I started understanding what the true meaning of feminine energy is supposed to be, it allowed me to see the its true value sets and benefits.
Doing things differently and allowing me to embrace my feminine energy has definitely allowed me to become open to a dream relationship. What made the difference is letting my partner exert his masculine energy and for me to put mine away. I have learned that it really does not work when we are both exerting masculine energy.
To underscore that, when I start showing some masculine energy, I can see that we clash. It is such an uncomfortable feeling, like literally putting on a mask. Over time I’ve gotten much better at embracing my feminine energy, allowing it to come out and play has become a little more effortless and natural. There are still times where I need to remind myself to let my feminine energy shine. But I can now feel, it’s like putting on the armor when I’m letting my masculine energy show.
The masculine energy definitely creates conflict for sure !
Learning about this ALONE has been HUGE and life changing for how I approach my relationship. My biggest takeaway from having repeated failed relationships to having a successful one, is being honest about what I feel when I feel it. Some might call that a form of denial or allowing myself to be vulnerable. Allowing my soft side to show, when explaining how I feel, and expressing that in a way that’s feminine, not the armor on masculine way, has made all the difference !
I’ve had that heavy masculine mask on my whole life and I haven’t had any healthy successful relationships up until this point. Now that I have one, I see that when I’m vulnerable and honest and willing to do things differently, it allows my partner to do the same thing. Its uncomfortable for both of us sometimes, but its working, so why not continue doing it ?
Taking personal accountability allowed me to see how I was causing my own detriment.
The masculine energy, in a way, was me trying to protect myself. A survival mechanism that I learned, but it wasn’t a successful one. And by unlearning it, and being willing to let it go, it’s opened me up to a lot of goodness that I want a lot more of. It’s still uncomfortable at times, but I know that doing the same old thing will just cause the same bad result. But now I want to do things different, and for the first time in my life, I have something different, a great relationship. And I want to continue building on it. I’m the common denominator in all my relationships so I need to make some changes as uncomfortable as they may be, and as unwilling as I may be to take those steps into newness, I’m doing it and, so far, it’s been working.
Every relationship is a mirror image of myself and what I need to learn about me. Water seeks its own level, and if I look at myself as water, I’m going to seek what I see in myself in my partner. So, my partner is the direct image of what I’m omitting and what I’m going to attract. And the things that I need to work on are going to be reflected to me in my partner or in my relationship. And maybe the things that I need to do more of or less of. Or the things that I need to be grateful for. Now when talking about how masculine energy is killing your relationship, its simple, a woman should should let her feminine energy dominate.